Foundations of Emotional Intelligence
I have often felt that I should be feeling more; that I should have more access to my emotions or that I’m somehow not feeling as deeply or intensely as I could. Sometimes it seems like there’s an experience that’s just out of my reach and if I could just give it more space, or try a little harder to pay attention to it, then it would come into full view. I’ve wondered: is this normal? I’ve wondered if this is just how I am, or is it due to some cultural, religious, or familial conditioning? Or maybe it has more to do with my conditioning around being a man? Regardless of where it comes from, trying to communicate what’s going on for me can be hard. Actually, just trying to identify what it is I’m feeling has been harder. Am I struggling to find the right words to encapsulate my experience or do I just not understand what I feeling in the first place? It took me quite some time to figure out that identifying your feelings and communicating them effectively is a skill. Just like a...